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Anonymous asked:

Anonymous asked brainbent:

my parents refuse to accept me for who I am, saying that if I were to ever transition it would ruin my life, but going on as a boy all my life would hurt even more. what should I do?

CG: NOW THAT I’VE GOT SOME COMPUTER TIME WITHOUT ANY OF THE PEANUT GALLERY AROUND I CAN FINALLY ANSWER THIS.

CG: I FEEL FOR YOU ANON. I GET THE SAME BULLSHIT FROM MY PARENTS. *STILL*. IT’S GETTING BETTER, BUT I GUESS IT’S GOING TO BE A WHILE BEFORE THEY DON’T DROP LITTLE TURDS OF ‘WE KNOW BEST’ ALL OVER WHEN THE TOPIC COMES UP.

CG: THEY DON’T SEEM TO REALIZE THAT I AM NOT IN FACT A DROOLING INFANT AND AM QUITE AWARE OF THE PROBLEMS INVOLVED IN TRANSITIONING, INCLUDING ONES THEY’VE NEVER CONSIDERED. PROBABLY BECAUSE, SURPRISE! I’M THE ONE WHO HAS TO LIVE WITH THE MAJOR CONSEQUENCES, NOT THEM.

CG: STILL, THEM INVENTING POSSIBLE DISASTERS AND PUTTING ME DOWN MADE ME DOUBT MYSELF PRETTY HARD, WHICH ONLY MADE ME EVEN MORE MISERABLE THAN I ALREADY WAS.

CG: BUT HERE’S THE THING I’VE BEEN COMING TO TERMS WITH: MY PARENTS DON’T HAVE TO LIVE IN THIS BODY AND LIVE THIS LIFE. *I* DO.

CG: TRANSITIONING MEANS *I’M* THE ONE WHO HAS TO DEAL PERSONALLY WITH PEOPLE POTENTIALLY BEING INCREDIBLE SHITHEADS TOWARD ME, AND HIDING MEANS *I’M* THE ONE WHO HAS TO SUFFER.

CG: SO IT TURNS OUT THAT I’M ACTUALLY THE ONLY ONE WHO HAS ANY RIGHT TO MAKE THE CHOICE OF WHICH SIDE OF THINGS I CAN LIVE WITH.

CG: I HAD TO WAIT UNTIL I WAS LEGALLY AN ADULT AND SUFFER A MENTAL BREAKDOWN TO REALLY START MOVING FORWARD WITH IT, WHICH WAS FUCKING AWFUL AND I RECOMMEND YOU AVOID IF AT ALL POSSIBLE. BUT.

CG: ANON, IT’S NOT THEIR CHOICE TO MAKE. IT’S YOURS. THEY CAN’T ACTUALLY PREDICT THE FUTURE. THEY MIGHT BE SCARED FOR YOU, OR SCARED OF WHAT OTHER PEOPLE WILL THINK, BUT YOU DON’T OWE THEM YOUR MISERY JUST SO THEY DON’T HAVE TO BE SCARED.

CG: MAKE THE CHOICES *YOU* CAN LIVE WITH.

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    I think this philosophy applies to things other than gender-related issues. Something to keep in mind for everyone.
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